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Anonymous asked: hi shimmy i love your videos and you seem to be awesome at advice Me and this girl have been tlking for 9 mnths we are inlove we can read each other like books,the first week we met each other it was instant trust, and i have big trust issues as does she, we each know things about the other that no one else knows we could make one another the happiest we both have ever been but we have a few problems 1 age diffrence 2. her mom 3. shes scared what should i do? giving up isnt a option i need her:/

Problems are only viewed by the human being as thoughts in their head that don’t follow along with their very own feelings.

So first of,
1. Age Difference.
Why is that an actual problem? Is someone underage and the other being a little pedo bear? Are you incorporating age difference as a problem because you 2 have different maturity levels and since you’re both differently aged probably have different outlooks and wants in life.

2. Her mom.
Does she not approve of you guys dating? Why is there necessarily the case if so?

3. She’s scared.
She’s scared of what? I know maybe you couldn’t give me full out details with background stories here and there, but what you told me based on the information you’ve given me it’s too vague.

Age in relationships play A HUUUUUUUGE factor and people really don’t realize it. Guys and girls already are so different and have different perspectives and outlooks on life. Be sure you guys are on the same page and understand what kind of relationship you guys want.

Her mom? Well she’s being a mom, she’s not going to easily let her daughter off with a guy you know. Mom’s are usually the emotional caregivers at birth, so to be honest you have to deal with it. Let’s hope she’s not actually enforcing you guys to not see each other.

She’s scared? Well do something about it. You’re the guy bro, girls are insecure based on nature. MAKE HER FEEL SECURE. Do you ACTUALLY like her? Then tell you the age difference makes no difference and you want to actually be with her. Let her know whatever her mom does, you will always be there for her through thick and thin and respect her mom at the same time.